Mom and Son relationship problem

Some people are fortunate to have parents who understand their children's needs without imposing their egos. However, others, including my parents, seem to struggle with ego issues. They expect their children to conform to their views, insisting they are always right. If children deviate from their parents' opinions, they risk being labeled rebellious and disobedient, devoid of parental blessings due to differing perspectives.

Dealing with my mom's financial expectations is challenging. While I willingly contribute 30% of my income to support her, it's frustrating that she always seems to need more. I provide money mainly for food, but it feels like she doesn't manage it effectively. Instead of prioritizing essential expenses, she spends on unnecessary items and then asks for more money when funds run low.

I didn't intend for her to be a maid, but I expect her to contribute to maintaining our home. Unfortunately, she neglects her responsibilities, leading to a messy house and inadequate food preparation. I want her to understand that caring for our small home is essential, and if she can handle this, perhaps a larger house isn't suitable for her.

Her decisions, like insisting on a specific person for roof repairs, often lead to problems. What's more frustrating is her tendency to blame me or others when things go wrong. It's a constant challenge to maintain patience, but I recognize my obligation to care for her. In 2024, I plan to focus on fulfilling my needs while finding a balance that prevents her behavior from negatively impacting my well-being.

Wish me luck to get through this. -Indra